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solemate_cover.jpgI've always said that in order to create a healthy love relationship with another person, you first need to create that within yourself. Well, there's a new book out that was written to help you do that. Solemate: Master the Art of Aloneness and Transform Your Life (notice the play on words), by Lauren Mackler, is a guide to  having a whole and loving relationship with your Self--not just so you can attract a healthy relationship partner, but so you can be happy and fulfilled with or without one.

Lauren's own story is a dramatic one of betraying herSelf to be in a relationship that was a match to her wounds rather than her wholeness. She writes the book from a place of having personally done what it took to emerge from the trap of unconsciousness into the clear light of true wholeness and independence. She is now a a renowned coach, keynote speaker, and host of the Life Keys radio show on

I was privileged to read an advance version, and I think the thing I like best about the book is that she shares very practical exercises for uncovering and healing the wounds within you that are keeping you from fulfillment. They are simple, yet powerful, and I must admit that even though I've been doing similar work with mySelf for decades, I found exercises in the book I plan to do to strengthen my own inner relationship (and thus, my outer one).

As I read, I kept thinking of all the people I know that I would recommend this book to--not just to those who are partnerless, but even to those who are in strong relationships as I am. If you're feeling an attraction to Solemate, great news! Right now, there's campaign going on and when you buy the book between April 9 and May 7, 2009, you will be eligible for a bunch of great bonuses, including being entered to win a coaching session with Lauren, and I Can Do It! Tampa (the Hay House Conference) including travel and accommodations for 2. Here's a link to the offer:

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Jacqueline said:

"...a match to her wounds rather than her wholeness." I TOTALLY identify with that! That's exactly what happened when I met my ex.

This sounds like a book to add to my collection of resources not only for my own continuing journey of inner healing, but also to share with others.

Thank you, Julia, for posting about Solemate!

Sibylle said:

Hi Julia!

Once more you write just what I need to hear exactly when I need to hear it. I have been consciously working on building a whole, fulfilled life on my own for some time, and it will be wonderful to read somebody else's take on it. I'm going to have to get that book!


Deborah said:


Haven't been by in a while. You have been busy! All looks interesting.

I would like to ask you to take a peek at this petition to introduce the ERA to the Louisiana Legislature on April 28. There will be an ERA Lobby Day at the Capitol on the same day. Please forward to any Louisiana friends.

Response so far has been lackluster, partly due to difficulty in getting word out. Local MSM seems disinterested. Hard to believe it is 2009.

This topic might be in keeping with Desires and Lies! I desire it but my ego keeps telling me it is pointless to try this again, ERA ratification in the deep south.


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